Sunday, February 26, 2023

Forgiveness Is All About Healed Relationships

Some of Elly Nelson's reflections in her February 26 Bible Study:

The act of forgiveness as biblically stated, involves not holding someone’s sin against them in a way that the relationship is strained, or enmity is created between individuals.

Of course, we may never forget the way someone has wronged us. People do terrible, evil things. Even fellow believers are capable of hurting us in profound ways. The point of forgiveness, however, is that we no longer keep a record or tally of those wrongs that we might use against them in the future.

When someone sins against us, if we’ve forgiven them, we don’t bring back previous sin as an added offense. Their debt has been erased, the score has been settled, and they are free from any burden of guilt.

We too are freed from bitterness, anger, and the constant need to seek retribution or demand reparation for their wrongs. It’s not easy. When someone hurts us, we often want to hold onto our resentment and sense of indignation, believing we are justified in seeking retribution or vindication.

The Bible, however, says that we are to “let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:31-32).

Forgiveness brings freedom to both parties, whereas unforgiveness only breeds bitterness, resentment, and further division. Jesus had addressed this when He addressed the need for believers to correct a brother or sister who has sinned.

When we lovingly confront those who’ve sinned against us, not in malice or vengeance but gentleness and reconciliation, we give the person the opportunity to confess, repent, and seek forgiveness. If they do, praise God. As Jesus says, “you have won your brother” (Matthew 18:15). This, of course, should always be the goal, the restoration of the relationship.

Ah, there is the word that I was looking for as I recounted the celestial event of the first of this month and the dog-walking at the last of this month. 

RELATIONSHIP.

March 2023 newsletter

House-to-House

 Family of Hope House Church              __       March 2023


Staying Awake Can Be Hard To Do

"But make sure that you don’t get so absorbed and exhausted in taking care of all your day-by-day obligations that you lose track of the time and doze off, oblivious to God. The night is about over, dawn is about to break. Be up and awake to what God is doing!” 

                                      Ken Peterson, Romans 13:11ff THE MESSAGE 

 

     Among the few books we had in our family library at home was one on the April 14, 1912, sinking of the Titanic, billed as the finest and most reliable ocean liner ever. I remember how horrified I was reading about the fate of all the people who wined and dined together in high style on that voyage, oblivious to the disaster that awaited them.

     In a similar way we may find ourselves lulled into believing that our ship of state, the now aging republic known as the United States of America, will endure forever. We are promised it will not only manage to avoid any future decline or disaster (of the kind that all empires of the past have experienced) but will gain ever increasing greatness.

     Thus in spite of the fact that both scripture and history tell us differently, we continue to trust in our broken economic and political system as though there were no tomorrow, or that our every tomorrow will be just like the present.

     In his book "Rewilding the Way", Todd Wynward quotes from the Dark Mountain Project, a group of artists and writers who take a contrasting view of where things are headed: 

     "Human civilization... is built on little more than belief: belief in the rightness of its values; belief in the strength of its system of law and order; belief in its currency; above all, perhaps, belief in its future. We live in an age in which familiar restraints are being kicked away, and foundations snatched from under us... A similar human story is being played out. It is the story of empire eroding from within us. It is the story of a people who believed, for a long time, that their actions did not have consequences. It is the story of how that people will cope with the crumbling of their own myths. It is our story.”       - Harvey Yoder             


Notes, Prayers and Praises


JAMES AND RUTH STAUFFER have moved to rooms 224 and 225 in the Redbud unit at VMRC’s Crestwood.

BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS TO RUTH STAUFFER, 3/28!

DONNA AND LEN SACRA suffered extensive loss due to a fire on one of their properties at Cootes Store west of Broadway.

OUR NEXT IN-PERSON SERVICE is planned for March 19 at Heritage Haven.


March Study Themes


5    Matthew 20:1-16 Parable of laborers in vineyard (Psalm 16:5-8)

12  Matthew 22:1-14 Parable of wedding banquet (Psalm 45:6-7)

19  Matthew 25:1-30 Parable of the bridesmaids and the talents (Psalm 43:3-4)

26  Matthew 25:31-46 The judgment of the nations (Psalm 98:7-9)


March Services, 3:30-5:00 pm 


5  Location: online

Worship and sharing: Harvey Yoder

Bible Study: Dick Dumas


12 Location: online

Worship and Sharing: Lois Rivera-Wenger

Bible Study: Kent Palmer


19 Location: Heritage Haven Conference Room

Worship and Sharing: Elly Nelson

Bible Study: Harvey Yoder


26 Location: online

Worship and Sharing: Lois Rivera-Wenger

Bible Study: Elly Nelson

Family of Hope Business Meeting

Family of Hope Annual Income and Spending Review and Discussion of FOH’s Future
Location: Zoom online
Date: January 29, 2023
Time 3:50-5 p.m.

Agenda 
1. Presentation and discussion of Income and Expenses (Treasurer’s) Report prepared by Susan Campbell
2. Discussion of future meetings of Family of Hope

Harvey opened the meeting with prayer.

The Income and Spending (Treasurer’s) Report was shared on-screen.
Harvey thanked Susan for compiling the Report. He noted that our aspirational budget was $16,800, but that we actually took in $11,210 in 2022. He noted that we have not stressed giving and that we still
had more than enough to give to targeted agencies. Harvey queried Susan about how incoming funds
come in. Susan: It varies. Some give monthly through bank transfer, some may give a single large
amount once a year, and some may give a larger amount every few months. Harvey queried Susan
regarding her workload in tracking finances and preparing reports. Susan responded that the workload
was not that hard except for the end of the year when closing out the year and waiting for final bank
statements.

Harvey reviewed expenditures: regarding local expenses, there was more than enough. $500 was
distributed for a local need, while $2500 was designated. He advised that Susan could petition for
postage costs. Susan disclaimed the need to do so. Harvey questioned a miscellaneous expense. Susan
said it was for Daniel Bowman as a guest speaker.

Harvey asked for questions or comments and then moved on to routine expenditures. $2800 was
allocated and distributed for routine Mennonite Conference Agencies. $3750 was allocated and
distributed to Mennonite USA agencies. Harvey asked for questions or comments.
David Weaver: David commented on our giving to Our Community Place. He suggested they may be
drifting away from Christian context. He stated further that Kingsway is doing good work and that perhaps we should shift some funds there. We need to get more information regarding this.
Harvey questioned an expenditure of $3000. Susan explained that it was a one-time donation to Open
Doors organization based on funds remaining from the 2021 overage after budgeted expenditures were
satisfied. This donation had been agreed upon by consensus.

Harvey requested reimbursement for Virginia Conference delegate fee and transportation, which would
be $60 plus the bus fee.

Roy Hange commented with admiration that the giving profile of the Family of Hope congregation
exceed that of many churches within his purview that are two and three times our size. This may be due
in part to the fact that our pastor accepts no salary.

No vote was taken and no revision to budget was determined pending investigation of Our Community
Place and discussion of maintaining the treasury based on the outcome of desire to continue the Family
of Hope Congregation as it is currently structured has been determined.

We exploring the results of the survey results concerning the continuance of Family of Hope
Harvey opened the discussion with responses to the questions posed in the survey. The survey results
were shared on the screen, with the letter M designating covenant members and the letter A designated
those who fellowship with Family of Hope but who have membership in other congregations that are
either Mennonite affiliated or of another affiliation. He stated first that he was in no way “burned out”
and would continue as lead pastor as long as his health allows.

He suggested further that we were all to answer the questions in the survey as we were led by The Spirit
to answer from an individual perspective and to continue to do that during our discussion of the survey
results. The survey questions were:
__ I believe it's time for Family of Hope to disband as an official Virginia Mennonite Conference congregation and have its members join other local congregations. (1 means you want FOH to continue just as it has been, 5 that you feel we should disband and have each person transfer their membership. )
 If we were to disband as an official congregation...
_ I would choose another church to be an active part of (1 means you would probably not choose to join another congregation, 5 that you would become an active member elsewhere, or if unsure, choose 2, 3, or 4)
__ I would be interested in maintaining ties with FOH folks interested in occasional meetings for prayer and fellowship rather than becoming a part of another church's small group or cell group

Elly: Elly admitted to confusion as to why a vote to disband as an official Mennonite Conference congregation would preclude disbanding as a fellowship of believers, why the alternative to remaining as we have been would be to transfer membership to a different congregation. She stated that she would not join another congregation because she has never experienced a fellowship such as this in any other church.
Susan: It would be sad to see FOH disbanded, but she is okay with whatever the majority decides.
Lois: She is not likely to join another church due to Covid concerns – for herself and for others-and would keep attending remotely via Zoom.
David: He chooses to go on as we have been and not go elsewhere, but not necessarily as an official congregation of the Mennonite Conference.
Harvey asked Roy how small a congregation could be and still be a valid Mennonite congregation. Roy answered that a minimum number was required to plant a church, but that he did not know the numbers required to remain in the Virginia Mennonite Conference.
Lewis: He feels he is a part of the congregation and loves the people here. He would
like to continue to be part of the congregation but doesn’t want to stay on Zoom for
the rest of his life.
Mary Ellen: She reviewed options available to them at VMRC, including bible studygroups and services at Strite auditorium. She still has a strong bond with theirformer church in Americus, GA, but would not transfer membership from Family ofHope.
Paul: Stated that he will remain in attendance with this congregation as long aspossible, just as we are.
Guy: He values the relationships within FOH, but finds it hard this way (through Zoom). He is willing to continue for the time being, but that Zoom is not a long-term option for him because it is too hard to maintain relationships.
Kent: He is not certain that the congregation is sustainable in the long term. He is not sure if the spirit that drew him to our group exists now, as we have been meeting via Zoom for so long.
Harvey added that he would prefer meeting face to face, and the topic of hybrid meetings arose.
Lively discussion ensued, with suggestions of meeting in a room at Park View Church which has a giant screen and wired sound system that makes it seem like everyone is present even if some are via Zoom. He also discussed an excellent ventilation system exists there.
The possibility of meeting in a room at VMRC was added to the discussion. Pros were listed as close proximity for Lewis and Mary Ellen, Paul and David. Whether the facilities for a large screen and optimum sound quality could be met is in question as well as permissions. Cons are ventilation.
Harvey asked Dick for his input on the survey.
Dick: He likes the proposals and would like to continue FOH. He has concerns about meeting in person. Kent asked Dick how he was in hybrid meetings that were outside, and Dick stated that he was fine with a hybrid meeting outside.
The consensus was that an outdoor venue does not afford those attending remotely to feel like a part of the meeting, or for those physically present to connect with those attending remotely, which is a great disadvantage. If we could find a place for hybrid meetings that would be safe and offer a viable solution, it would keep us connected in the manner that we all desire, while those who have reservations about meeting corporeally would still have the sense of being present.
Knowing that Kent, who normally does all the technical work to get us connected via Zoom is typically absent one Sunday each month. Elly volunteered to learn whatever is need to fill in for him on that one Sunday.
Harvey suggested experimenting for a year or two in finding and using a venue that would work well for us. Guy countered with three months.
Though no action was taken on the budget and consensus was not reached regarding continuation as a Virginia Mennonite Conference congregation, a consensus was reached that we will do all that we can to make it possible for those who wish to attend in person and those who wish to remain remotely connected will be able to convene in the best way possible. To that end, Harvey suggested that he and Kent would explore options at VMRC and at Park View as starting points, and promised for one Sunday in February to be a hybrid service.

Roy Hange brought our meeting to a close with kind words and an uplifting blessing
as benediction.

Wednesday, February 1, 2023

February 2023 newsletter

House-to-House
Family of Hope House Church                February 2023

Stage IV Malignancies Endangering  the Body of Christ?   
At the winter Delegate Assembly Saturday, 2/4, delegates from Virginia Mennonite Conference congregations heard a report and recommendations from an outside consulting and listening group concerning mistrust of Conference structures and leadership in the wake of charges of professional misconduct by the Executive Minister. We also considered at length some bylaw changes regarding the way members of the Conference Congregational Council are chosen. 

These are certainly issues deserving our prayerful attention, but I also wished we had more time for serious discernment and prayer about other pressing issues affecting all of us, like...

A Pandemic of Affluenza: Our members are becoming increasingly affluent, building expansive homes, going on Caribbean cruises and enjoying the finest of fares, while the gap between people of privilege and wealth and the world’s poor and homeless becomes ever wider. 

Excommuni-mania. While excommunication of individual members in the pattern of Matthew 18 has become almost unheard of, whole congregations are withdrawing from communication and fellowship with fellow believers in other whole groups of churches they have been a part of for decades. In my own lifetime, we have gone from having three Anabaptist communions in Rockingham County alone to over a dozen today. 

Sports Attention Disorder. Super Bowl Sunday, for example, may generate more interest and engagement on the part of many members than do Good Friday, Easter and World Communion Sunday combined.

Fidelity Deficit Disorder. Teens and young adults, gay and straight alike, are increasingly experiencing physical intimacy with multiple partners, then often living together in undocumented marriages before having a church blessed wedding. The use of readily available pornography is also adversely affecting members of our communities at an ever younger age. 

MAGA-phoria. Ever more of our members are aligned with election deniers, insurrectionists, gun regulation opponents, climate crisis deniers and advocates for an America-first, nationalist and militaristic agenda that is unwelcoming of refugees and people of other races and ethnic groups. Our members on both the political left and right are increasingly alienated from each other.

There is so much to praise God for in the family of faith that has been home to me for most of my adult life. May God grant us wisdom to discern a way forward in the spirit of Lord's prayer in John 17, the experience of Jewish and Gentile congregations at odds with each other in Acts 15, and the appeals for unity on the part of missionary Paul in his letters to the Corinthians, Ephesians and others.                                                  

Notes, Prayers and Praises

LEWIS AND MARY ELLEN OVERHOLT celebrated their wedding anniversary January 13. Congratulations!

DAVID WEAVER GOT THIS RESPONSE to a Christmas card he sent to someone on a list of prisoners often forgotten by the outside world: “I've lost all my family members who cared enough to send cards in the past 23 years, so I only get a few during the holidays. I'm still on a quest to have an Ancestry DNA test done so I can find my biological father, who is unaware of my existence. My mother served in the Navy with him and never told my father about me. She left the service and gave me up to my grandparents who adopted and raised me. The VA Department of Corrections just won't let me use a DNA …It’s an ongoing battle, but I feel that all hope is lost and I will never find my father before he passes away. The passage of time slowly takes away all the joy of life and leaves nothing but sadness, but your card helped a little for that. Merry Christmas.” - Tom Melnyczyn Deerfield Correctional Center

February Study Themes

5    Matthew 7:1-14, 24-29 Speck in the eye, narrow gate, wise man builds house on rock (Psalm 37:16-18)
12  Matthew 13:24-43 Parable of wheat and weeds (Psalm 84:1-7)
19  Matthew 16:24--17:8 Passion prediction, bearing the cross, Transfiguration (Psalm 41:7-10)
26  Matthew 18:15-35 Church discipline, forgiving 70 times 7, parable of unforgiving servant (Psalm 32:1-2)

February Services, 3:30-5:00 pm 

5  Location: online
Worship and sharing: Elly Nelson
Bible Study: Harvey Yoder
12 Location: online
Worship and Sharing: Lois Rivera-Wenger
Bible Study: Dick Dumas
19 Location: Heritage Haven conference room
Worship and Sharing: Harvey Yoder
Bible Study: Kent Palmer
26 Location: online
Worship and Sharing: Lois Rivera-Wenger
Bible Study: Elly Nelson